Coping with change
by Selina Kelley
When things change, there is normally a guarantee that
someone is upset about it. It's absolutely unavoidable. If
people who created things within this game decided to
concede to the wishes of everyone, quite simply, nothing
would ever be made.
So, with that said, here are some ideas on how to react to
situations where something has changed that you disagree with,
don't like, have further ideas for, etcetera.
1) Approach the person directly.
A coin. Isn't it pretty.
Most wizards are more than willing to converse with
someone who has an idea, or a criticism over a particular
code change. When you post on news or public forums, it
can very easily lead to misunderstandings. If, after speaking
with the person who made the change directly, you still feel
the need to voice your opinion, you can post. Posting
before fully understanding the reason for a change can
sometimes ensure your view isn't really "heard"-- you've lost
credibility if you don't know the facts before you post.
This goes the same for public channels (such as a gossip channel,
or newbie channel). Arguing over channels rarely gets the right
information to the right person, and is seem as inflammatory rather
2) Take a deep breath.
Most of the time, the people who are the most upset are
the ones that are directly affected. Yes, understandably, when
something is modified to be downgraded, it can change your
entire playing style. However, the worst way to approach this
kind of situation is to immediately go on the offensive about
the changes (see #1). The best way to be heard is to keep
calm, don't attack, and be reasonable.
3) You are what you eat.
You're also who you associate with. If you are in the
midst of a discussion regarding a change, addition or removal,
it may not be the most sensible thing to invite people into
the conversation that may be rash, or may not know enough
details to provide a coherent and/or helpful point of view.
Once again, it falls back on credibility. See #1.
4) Threats don't work.
A mud is more than one person. Rarely will threatening
to leave invoke any kind of positive change, or convince anyone
to revoke the changes. Quite honestly, rarely will the person
involved care if you leave (especially if this is your first
and immediate reaction). The worst way to approach any kind
of discussion about changes is to immediately threaten anyone
about anything-- you shut down all points of communication
by doing this. See #2.
I hope these help. The above points are ones that I take into
account whenever I have a disagreement with someone, especially
on an online medium where words are so very easily misinterpreted.
Thanks for your time.
September 2001 Imaginary Realities, the magazine of your mind.
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